HOW TO COPE WITH ANGER

Hey, how are you, if you are reading this post then, I am sure you are a wise person and that you care about yourself and about others that is why you are here.  Go till the end of the article for proper knowledge because I focus on psychology and it is not short term trick but a proper instruction where you will be your instructor.

Let us being,

OK so the problem we are dealing with is anger, you must know how harmful your anger is, you can hurt yourself, your loved ones and I am afraid to say that there will be one day when you will have nothing but regret. No one likes you when you get angry, in fact this situation is so critical that a lot of abuses have their roots in anger. So if you have such issues you must cope with it as fast as possible.

today I will not talk about the cliche advises you get from other posts, because they are so common that they do not help anymore, furthermore they are bunch of tricks which I believe is not suitable for permanent solution, If you follow the guidance given below you will definitely have a benefit from it, if you do not believe me , then you must know that I suffered from short temper, and it was not good, people used to fear that I will get angry so they heisted to talk to me, which really used upset me. But now I cannot even remember when was the last time I was angry, maybe last year once I am not sure.

I want to clarify that there two people, one are those who get excessively angry for no valid reason in fact they can be really aggressive, second are the people who are casual people.  This post is for casual people, because for first category they need proper guidance, which suggest they can get from professional.

Listen before we begin take out a notepad (EXTREMELY IMPORTANT) you must have it with you. It is must in fact I suggest it in article of mine, it is a request to get ready with A PEN AND A NOTEBOOK.

1. SELF INTROSPECTION

Now listen closely, to first control your anger you first need to know yourself, get comfortable, sit on your chair or lay down,
now,. While releasing take breath I want you to reminisce the time you when you lost your temper, remember the reason, recall the whole scene, recall the people, and their faces. Imagine your self at that time.

Now put it on the paper, in the most clear language in big letters,  I want you to accept that self of yours, do not try to run with that self, get comfortable with him or her, but do not get comfortable with his or her acts they are bad.

I want you to recall, all of your thoughts, judge them recall them and I know that you are aware with the immersive nature of yours.

look if you will keep running from the fact that you have a short temper then it is not going to be help full, it is OK if you have done some wrong things in unnecessary anger and might have hurt somebody, do not worry, because it was not the person who is reading this article.

believe!!!

 Here your first step ends.

2. Know your surroundings.

One of the best factor that helped me, was the fact that I was well aware of my surroundings, that is why it was easy for me to judge my and their anger and to cope with mine while relaxing others at the same time. Look it does not matter if you are right or not, the fact is the act of you getting angry is not correct, so second tip is to know your surroundings, allow me to tell you how.

Again take out your notebook, list each person you see every day especially those who trigger your anger, it is probably the most important thing to do ,after that write about them, as much you can, write the good things about them write the things you do not like. And while doing that please be complete honest to yourself, you are not saying all that to the person in reality you are just writing on paper, burn it later If you do not like it, but you have to write first
like this example (Jake- hey Jake, I just want to tell you that you are really a lovely per son that is why I visit your coffee shop every weekend, but I hate how imprudent you are) that is just an example there should be a lot of depth in it and it should be long try to justify the things you do not like about that person while writing about him or her.

done? Cool it means you are now aware of the people you dealing with, please do not hate anyone okay, everyone is just, the way they are, they can be irritating forgive them be the bigger person. You are better than them you can forgive them.

3.) Comfort your mind.

It is very easy, keep your mind happy, it is a little kid you can handle it well believe me on that , get this thing in your mind, you are a human and humans are born to be superior. Now what do I mean by comfort or how to comfort.

You do not need notebook this time; sit on your couch watch shows or movies, like how I met your mother, two and a half man. Sit and love it, good now your mind is good, eating some good food, vegetable, hot-dog whatever you like yes do not forget the health though. Mind me if you spend some weeks already doing this, then believe me you will see the change in behavior of people around you. And it will feel really good.

Read books, books are like miracle upon this world, they are pure god, they do not judge neither they ask you to judge they just tell the story in fact I will put some books link. 

third tip is yoga and heavy breathing all that is helpful but those are for aftermath I want to avoid the situation in which they need it at all. I want that even when a guy slaps you, you do not get triggered, and these little things actually affect your mind heavily.

4.) learn to let things go

Look the most easy way to avoid is to stop caring, I used to be argumentative, periodical arguments were like daily routine which resulted a lot of stress in my mind , making it more easy for me  to get angry, but after some months, and practice. I finish the argument by accepting my lost, it does not only saved my time but also helped my brain to be calm. Those arguments had no importance in my life , it was a total waste of time, by stating that he or she wins, I get to have the last laugh because the person is not satisfied with the win.

Now how to do it, I want you to start writing diary, you do not have to do it every day you can do it every week based on the contain and time, why is that?.

Look, when you write diary, you open your self ;you become honest,  whatever in it is correct you win every argument in that, you light your heart up and wake up with fresh mind with no hard feeling of yesterday’s anger, which would eventually increases the time interval between the next angry day, while writing the diary, I do not want you to write about the things happened in your day, but I want you to write what you learned from that thing, what you did not like about that particular thing and why.

are you getting it? Good. Remember if you will not follow the instruction I cannot help, the result may not show up in the instant but it will eventually.

5. Personalize

Personalize the situation according to your need!!!.

There different scenario of every other person I cannot tell you exact thing to do. You need to see where are you having problem, and change the given steps accordingly, I think it is understood and those steps are generalized after my experience.

If you are wondering how to personalize then I am here to help you. Take out your noted and repeat the same step as in step 1, in fact keep doing it as often as you can, the better you will know yourself better you will have control on your anger. Your anger is just an act of your brain, and you my dear are not slave of your brain. in fact you are better than anyone.

After writing that down, try to solve the problem with confession and try to be honest as much you can, see if it is the person making you angry if so then why, because of any of your act or someone’s else. Like I want you to travel to the root of the conflict now cut that root. It will not grow back now.

 6. Conclusion

Now you are better, you do not have any remorse nor any regrets. You are calm, in fact better.

Whatsoever now I want you to practice meditation. It is not like those classic one that you on advertisement, meditation is an art of handling the thoughts, you do not resist them you allow them to flow.

For that you can try head space, I tried it myself It was like cheery on ice cream. I advise you to try it as well; it is an application perhaps available on every platform.

I want you to help people it will make you feel good and with every help you will learn something.
Congratulation.

   

    How are you doing smart people!!!

 I hope the above article helped you to cope,  I am it is not like other articles on internet. It is because they are like everywhere plus they felt more like imposed on to me. Hence I tried to make it more casual and personalized.  The motive of the article was to teach how to cope with anger not to trick it or something.

I want you to perform it or around three months and then write the result in comment section, and read the article again if there is any confusion. 

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